How to get a Girl boss Attitude

Guys, I am on a high right now. You know that feeling where it feels like you are literally unstoppable, and that anything could happen? That’s what I’m feeling. However, a few weeks ago I didn’t feel this way at all. In fact, I felt the opposite. Not to sound too dramatic, but it felt like I was just floating through life. Like, I would drive from point A to point B and not even know how I got there. I just felt this overall sense of blah. The worst part, I had a list of goals that I wanted to achieve, but hadn’t really been taking them that seriously, which is totally unlike me. I knew changes had to be made. I needed a re-vamp on my life, and stat. Thus, project Girl Boss was born.

I thought long and hard about everything I could do that would not only bring change into my life, but that would empower me, and help me achieve my goals. I took ideas from my favorite podcasts, books, therapeutic techniques, and from my own past- and created the ultimate girl boss guide. I have been implementing these steps for a couple weeks now, and each day just gets better and better. I feel like myself (re-vamped of course) again, and I have so much drive. I now feel like I have no choice but to go after my goals, and get as much out of my day as i possibly can. It’s all thanks to these nifty habits. I cannot wait to see where I am a month from now : ]

I give you, project girl boss:

  1. Go to bed and wake up early

     I like to make sure I am asleep by 11 p.m. in order to wake up at 6:30 a.m. I am hoping that I will soon be going to bed at 10 p.m. and waking at 5:30. In order to do this, I try and keep my nights as easy and relaxing as possible. I will usually have dinner by 7 p.m. then will spend the rest of the night, watching t.v., reading, or getting prepared for the next day. Essentially, I treat 6-11 pm as my self- care time, and I avoid work at all costs. This ensures that I am relaxed enough to fall asleep early enough.

2. Wake with intention

                 I have a bad habit of immediately picking up my phone in the morning and mindlessly scrolling through instagram. I wanted to change the start of my day to be something more mindful and purposeful. So, I now start each day by thinking of what my intention is for the day. The intention can be based on a goal, a feeling, my to-do list, or a change I want to make. I then take a moment and think about ways I can integrate that intention throughout my day. It has really helped me find focus for my day, and I find that I feel more inspired than I was when I would just stare at my phone.  

3. Accept and bring change and new things into your life

              This one is muy importante people. Do not resist change. I have started to change up my environment, the people I interact with, and what I spend time on. It has brought new sources of inspiration and excitement into my life. Not to mention, being around new people can push you towards growth- as they bring a whole new way of thinking and new experiences. I find that the changes that challenge my current mindset are the best ones.

4. Plan ahead.

   Lately, I have been planning out the entire week on Sunday. I start my writing out a list of what I want to get done that week. I break it down in sections like, youtube, instagram, blog, and work. This gives me a general idea of how I need to break down my week. Then I go ahead and schedule in everything Monday-Sunday. That way when I start the day I know exactly what i need to get done, and what is coming up later that week. I find that when I have a clear idea of what my week holds I experience less stress, and am less likely to let things go undone.

5. Work on self-awareness and self-care

   Don’t forget to check in with yourself and make sure you are giving yourself everything you need. I like to do at least one thing each day that is just for me. This ensures that I feel great, and stay motivated to do everything else that I have to do.

6.  Never stop learning.

  Listen to podcasts, read books, watch ted talks, and talk with experienced people. This can be in your area of interest, or in something you know nothing about. There is always something that you don’t know. Also, trying something completely new and out of your comfort zone is a great way to expand your worldview. I am not the best at being completely new at something.  I hate the part where i struggle and get it wrong, and love when i nail it. So I often find myself avoiding things I haven’t done before. It’s just not a good way to live. After All, there isn’t a single expert out there who didn’t start as a newbie. They are experts because they worked at it for a long time, and made a lot of mistakes along the way.

7. Eat healthy

              I feel empowered when I fuel my body with the best food possible. I like eating a diet packed with whole foods, which makes me feel extra energized, motivated, and positive.

8.  Workout

             Workout for at least 30 min a day. Even if you just take a walk outside- getting moving will release all the good endorphins. Plus, you feel like a badass after a difficult and sweaty workout. I like to fit my workouts in the morning so that I have the rest of the day to focus on my work.

9. Clean up your environment  

             I find that the state of my living space is directly related to how I feel mentally. So, I like to make sure my space is as clean and organized as possible. I now try and avoid going to bed with any dirty dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, or things not where they should be. This way I wake up in a space that looks good, and  feels ready for me to start the day.

10. Understand that perfection isn’t something you have control over

I have a post on this already… linked here (https://taylorkaras.com/2018/05/28/stop-the-battle-for-control/)  But, it’s important to not obsess over things you cannot control as it is a waste of energy that can be focused on what you can control.

11. Try looking at things objectively

     I’m starting to assess things objectively and realistically, rather than taking everything personally. This helps so much with work! When I look at an issue objectively I am able to easily identify what is or is not working and work to find a solution. For example, I am really trying to increase my engagement on instagram. I used to post something and obsess over the number of likes and comments and then feel bad about myself and the content, which never really helped me find a solution. Now when a post doesn’t do as well as I had hoped, I look at what is different about the image compared to my best performing images, and then to adapt what was in the best performing image in my next post. I don’t blame myself or feel bad. I take it as a learning experience.

I hope these hacks help you guys create a girl boss attitude, and help you achieve your goals! Let’s do this!

Love,

Taylor K

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