As a counselor, the biggest question I get asked is, “How do I find my purpose?” This is always such a hard question to answer, because our purpose ultimately comes from what we take away from our experiences and aspirations, and is incredibly personal. Plus, I too struggle with defining my purpose and with finding ways to remain truthful to it.
The truth is, finding your true purpose is just step one of the process. You then have to create goals that define your focus, create an intentional routine that will help you achieve these goals, and then continuously check-in with yourself to make sure you are aligned with your goals and purpose. A lot of us (myself included) get really caught up in creating goals and placing focus on the wrong things.
Let me explain.
Four years ago, I was a senior in undergrad studying medicine and biology. I was part of a sorority, had a position of leadership in a couple clubs, and had a pretty great social life. However, I was completely and utterly detached from myself. There were many times where I would be in tears wondering how I felt so alone, unhappy, and unlike myself. When a problem would occur, I would ask myself, “What would Taylor do?” just constantly trying to get back in touch with the girl I once was.
My purpose in life has always been to help others. I have felt this since I was just a gal in diapers. However, as I got older my why had become clouded with wants and desires. This caused me to create goals that weren’t truly aligned with my purpose, and were more about pleasing others and my superficial self rather than focusing on what I actually wanted just for me.
For instance, I had zero interest in being a doctor. I just knew that doctors made a lot of money, and I would be financially taken care of. Also, no hate on the people in my life at this time, but I was surrounding myself with people who were not at all aligned with who I was. I kept them close simply to check the box of having a social life. I was only going after outward goals.
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One thing you absolutely have to know about me is that I’m obsessed with the holidays! Getting together with family, the decorations, the beautiful weather, and let’s not forget the movies that leave you feeling oh so fuzzy. However, there is something about the holidays that a lot of people don’t like to talk about. Burn out.
My admiration of the holidays usually results in me feeling a little more stressed out than usual. I mean, during the holidays we are; socializing more, spending more, eating more, doing more, and sleeping less. For a people pleasing introvert like myself- that can be a lot.
What usually happens is I am in busy bee mode for three months straight without taking any time to take care of myself. I usually end up with a cold, and a messy apartment as soon as New Year’s rolls around.
I wanted to compile a list of self-care practices that we can all do this holiday season. Whether you are like me, or if you just want new ways to take extra care of yourself, try to take advantage of at least one of these self-care tips.
I have also created a self-care guide that can help you with quick ideas for self-care, learning what types of self-care work best for you, and the situations that may result in you needing some self-care.
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About 6 months ago I set out to make this the best year yet. I made a ton of goals, graduated from my master’s program, and decided to start focusing on growing my social media and forming a personal brand. While this is all well and good, I have completely lost touch with my inner me. You see, it’s so easy to get caught up in the physical and visible parts of ourselves (our bodies, our school work, our social media accounts, our friends) these things provide us with direct results and satisfaction. We can see ourselves getting what we want, and it feels amazing. However, it eventually won’t mean that much if you aren’t working on self-love too.
What is self-love? It’s what I like to think of as a combo of self-awareness and appreciation. According to google, it’s the regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic). Why is this important? You truly cannot find true happiness, love, and connection without it. A lack of self-love will result in difficulty in areas of confidence, relationships, success, and so much more. You may be in a relationship, you may have great success, but you will not feel connected to them.
For me, this neglect towards myself has caused me to feel a little lost, sad, anxious, and insecure. I have noticed that I have been constantly seeking validation from everyone and everything around me and feeling devastated when I don’t receive it. Why am I desperately looking for this validation? Because I’m not giving it to myself. So simple. I promised myself that I would focus on the relationship I have with myself for the remainder of this year, and will hopefully create rituals and habits that I will carry with me forever.
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I have been living for my morning routine lately. It’s the perfect blend of productive action, and relaxed self-care. I like to change up my routine every now and then, but I always come back to these basics, because they work best. I love this routine, because it gives me enough energy and motivation to drive me through my day. Also, it’s filled with healthy hacks to make sure I’m starting my mind and body off on the right foot. So, if you’re looking to spruce up your routine, or are wanting to start over completely- give this one a try.
*** I filmed my morning routine for my Youtube channel, check it out by clicking the URL below***
- I wake up at 5:30-6:30 am everyday
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To continue onto the last post I am sharing a few savory snack recipes that are sure to fill you up! They are all vegan, healthy, and packed with flavor. As I have mentioned- I am usually a sweet gal, and Wyatt is all about the savory goods. It can create quite a debate when it comes to whipping up something to snack on. However, these have been a go-to lately.
Making your own snacks is a great way to avoid eating a lot of processed foods. These recipes are easy as they take 4-25 minutes to make! You can even make them as part of your meal prep and have them ready to go throughout the week.
I have uploaded a video where you can follow along HERE
Recipe 1: Pizza Roll Bliss Balls
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I have a huge sweet tooth. I can’t even recall a time where I didn’t end the day with dessert. It’s my thing. However, my fitness goals (aka abs of steel) don’t really allow me to indulge on the daily. So, it has become my mission to create healthy, vegan, and gluten free sweets that align perfectly with my goals. So if you’re in the same boat as I am, and find yourself dreaming of cake and cookies- Don’t fret because I have everything you need in this post. There is a recipe for everyone! I posted this on my Youtube— check it out HERE
Fig Newton Bars:
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For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with anxiety and stress. In elementary school, I struggled taking tests, being away from my parents for longer than a few days, and being in new places. I remember when anxiety would pop up as a kid- I would immediately start crying. I had no way of communicating to others what I was feeling, but I knew I hated it. Eventually my anxiety subsided, and I would continue on thinking I just had a stomach ache or something. I was fortunate enough to experience anxiety in waves. There were times/years even where I experienced little to none, but when it did hit- it would hit hard and for long periods of time. My second big round of anxiety was in high school. My anxiety was so bad that I struggled to get to school in the morning. I would wake up and immediately throw up, break out in panic sweats, get tunnel vision, and shake profusely. I missed a lot of school, which did not help when I had days where I would drag myself to school. Because I was missing so much school- I was behind, and it was a big anxiety trigger for me to be sitting in class and have zero idea of what anyone was doing. It didn’t matter how many friends I had- I felt completely alone. Eventually, my parents put me in therapy, and finally I had someone I could talk with who knew exactly what I was going through, and would provide guidance on how to get through it. The best part- I suddenly had a name for this thing that had taken up so much of my life. I felt such relief to be able to say, “I have anxiety.” or “This is an anxiety attack.” My time with my therapist is definitely one of the biggest reasons I have become a therapist, and love working with the adolescent population so much.
Overtime, I learned to prevent and manage my anxiety, but as I got older- I also had to learn how to know and understand my anxiety triggers. For a while, I ignored them, and would run myself into the ground-ignoring my building stress until I would break. This resulted in a panic attack. Panic attacks are the absolute worst. I honestly thought I was having a heart attack and called 911. When the responder told me I was having a panic attack, I was mortified. Panic attacks/ anxiety attacks leave you feeling drained, embarrassed, isolated, and scared. It’s tough, and I deeply feel for anyone who experiences them.
For a few years now I haven’t had panic attacks, and have only had anxiety for a few days here and there. When I do get anxiety, I am able to work through it and for the most part continue to do my day as planned. It’s all thanks to these tips and tricks. I have worked for years to find what helps me work through times of stress and anxiety, and have found ways that help me avoid having spells of anxiety. I decided to share these with you all! I’ve also included things that I have learned to use with my clients : ]
If you want more detail on these tips watch my video Here
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Guys, I am on a high right now. You know that feeling where it feels like you are literally unstoppable, and that anything could happen? That’s what I’m feeling. However, a few weeks ago I didn’t feel this way at all. In fact, I felt the opposite. Not to sound too dramatic, but it felt like I was just floating through life. Like, I would drive from point A to point B and not even know how I got there. I just felt this overall sense of blah. The worst part, I had a list of goals that I wanted to achieve, but hadn’t really been taking them that seriously, which is totally unlike me. I knew changes had to be made. I needed a re-vamp on my life, and stat. Thus, project Girl Boss was born.
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I feel like it has been way too long since I have las posted! I have been traveling a lot, and spending time on a few other projects, but I am here with some nifty information. I don’t know about you- but my skin seems to freak out in the summer. I’m not sure if it’s all of the traveling or the weather, but my skin takes a complete 180. Normally, I have combination skin that tends to lean toward the dry side. I get my fair share of breakouts, but they are manageable.
However, in the summer it’s a constant struggle to keep my skin from completely falling apart. I struggle with oil, texture, tough breakouts, and tone. It’s so frustrating because I get my rouine down, and then have to start from scratch. Well, I am happy to report that I planned in advance this year, and have not had these issues at all this summer! Yay! So, I want to share my tips and tricks with you guys.
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So who here loves donuts? If you said “hell yeah” then this post is for you. I decided it would be fun to find three completely different donut recipes, and make them my own. I changed the ingredients to be completely vegan and created toppings that would be healthy-well, healthier ; ) (my adaptations will be written within the recipes.)
The first was a raw vegan donut. This was easily the easiest recipe to make, and took me about ten minutes total. This recipe was really similar to my raw cookie dough recipe. I would say this is more like a cookie dough texture than cake, but still soo yummy.
The second was a vanilla cake donut. This had a much stronger cinnamon flavor than anticipated. It has a great texture, but far more dense than a regular cake donut. You could sub almond flour and get a more cake like texture.
The third is by far the recipe that most resembles a non- vegan donut. It is cakey, thick, and soft. I didn’t adapt too much on this recipe as I wanted to include one that was a more decadent choice.
The toppings were my own creation. I wanted to keep them as simple as possible. In order to get the glazes to harden on the donuts- I placed them in the refrigerator for 10 min once they cooled.
Boyfriend review: Wyatt preferred the raw donut over the other two. He loved the unique ingredients in the chocolate donut, and is now wanting to put aquafaba in everything haha
Raw Vegan Donut
- 2/3 cup rolled oats
- 2/3 cup cashews, preferably soaked for 4 hours then rinsed (I boiled them for 25 min)
- 2/3 cup pitted dates
- 1/8 teaspoon Himalayan salt (I used a tiny bit of salt)
- 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract (optional)
To make the dough: grind all the ingredients into a thick, moist dough in a high speed blender or food processor. This may take several minutes. If it’s still too crumbly, add some more dates or a tablespoon of coconut oil or water. Roll into balls and put in the freezer until cold and firm, around 20 minutes.
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